HELP!
I need quick advice… the story ain’t quick, cos, ya know- it’s ME, but I need the advice in the quickest, most orderly fashion… thank you. For months the ex and I struggled (read: fought) over buying new living room furniture. His is all mix-match, and while mine is nice, it is getting old and showing its age. Since I was SUPPOSED to be moving in this month, we spent all summer couch shopping and it was like pulling teeth with this one. We finally settled on the perfect one, but were waiting to get it until my actual move date. That ain’t happening… so, in one week of being broken up he went out and bought not only a new couch, but a big chair and ottoman as well! In the color I kept telling him we (he? he.) needed for that room! Now he wants my help arranging it so it looks “right”. ugh. I think he is getting out of hand here. I’m not adverse to being “friendly” with him right now, but I’m not going to be his “friend” just yet. But it sure as shit seems like he thinks that is how it is going to be. I REFUSE to be mean to him- I’m not stooping to that level (though I know he deserves it), and I’m not going to ignore him because I don’t want him to think I am even putting THAT much effort into it. So I guess my question is, how do I strike that right balance here? He’s obviously not going away and intends on staying in my life in some way, and I am cool with that, but how do I keep him in his place, so to speak, and still maintain… what? grace? grace. any clue?? boys, you might actually have more insight on this one. I’m not going to be his emotional support in getting over fucking me up, but I am not going to be ugly to him either.
sheesh, now I am babbling- the advice? how do I get that BALANCE??
